Couples Therapy
Finding the way through the stuckness.
Maybe you’re still together, doing all the couple things like sharing a home, raising kids, organising diaries, but inside it feels distant. Both: physically and emotionally.
The same arguments come round on repeat, circling the same ground without resolution. There’s a quiet pulling away, a slow drift into parallel lives. Well… not always quiet.
It’s not that you don’t care about each other. You do, at least, you hope you do. But it’s been so long since you really felt a spark that you sometimes wonder: Who are we now? How did we get here?
Some days it feels heavy, lonely. You catch yourself thinking, “Is this it?” And at times, you glance elsewhere for the closeness that feels missing.
But it doesn’t have to stay this way. Relationships can change. We can shape new relationships with the same partners. Even the smallest crack of light can shift the whole landscape.
You don’t need to rebuild everything at once just enough space to breathe, to see each other differently, to remember that beneath the arguments and silence, there’s still love waiting to be found.
You long to feel close again. To find safety and warmth. To rediscover that flicker of spark that makes your heart soften, maybe even tingle a little. Heck, I think you might be thrilled to not feeling bored in the relationship.
Together, we can begin there.
What’s really going on?
When relationships feel distant, it’s rarely because you’ve stopped loving each other. More often, it’s there are protective parts that have quietly taken the lead when life has been tense or uncertain.
Maybe one of you steps in to fix everything, trying to keep life running smoothly, while the other pulls back, quietly protecting yourself from getting hurt. Sometimes a critical voice creeps in, nudging your partner away when what you truly want is closeness.
Other times, the part that tries to control or hold everything together takes over, just to keep the world from tipping. Behind these parts are the wobbly, uncertain and wounded parts that are so longing for love, connection and warmth. But when the protectors are in charge, the connection between you can feel buried under all the doing, defending, and retreating.
What couples therapy offers is a chance to slow down, to notice which parts are speaking, and to gently invite your more grounded, open self to step forward.
That’s where the cracks of light appear. That’s where hope starts to live again.
The Longing.
Beneath the tension, the distance, the repeating arguments, there’s still a part of each of you that longs to be seen and held, a part that remembers the closeness you once had.
You want to feel safe enough to speak your heart without fear of judgment or blow-up. You want to laugh together again, to share small moments that make life feel lighter. You want the comfort of knowing your partner really sees you, and that they still want to be seen by you.
It’s not about fixing each other. It’s just about noticing each other again, sharing one small moment of connection, or pausing before reacting. Giving space for love, curiosity, and care to come back in.
Even tiny cracks can allow warmth and closeness to re-enter a relationship. And those moments, repeated over time, are where trust, joy, and connection quietly rebuild themselves.
This is what therapy can do. Help you find your way back to each other, slowly, gently, and with hope.
Hello, I’m Louise,
I’m a HCPC-registered counselling psychologist. I’ve spent years supporting couples to notice the parts of themselves that show up in relationships, the protective, reactive, and sometimes hidden parts and creating space for the grounded, curious self to lead.
My work is rooted in relational neuroscience, psychodynamic and internal family system (IFS) thinking. But in practice, it’s simple: I hold a safe, attuned space where both of you can be seen, heard, and understood.
I believe in the parts of you that long for closeness, even if they’re buried under hurt, fear, or old patterns. And I know that, with gentle guidance, curiosity, and attunement, relationships can shift in profound ways. Noticing a pattern, speaking a truth, pausing before reacting can begin to restore safety, connection, and intimacy.
I work with couples who want more than “going through the motions.” Those who want to reconnect, understand each other deeply, and create a partnership that feels alive, safe, and nourishing.
Ways to work together.
Your relationship is worth creating space for. Here’s how we can begin:
Initial Conversation — 20 minutes (free)
A short, no pressure chat to explore what’s happening for you, notice the patterns in your connection, and see if it feels safe to start.
Initial Session — 90 minutes — £270
A full session to begin noticing which parts of you and your partner are in charge at different moments, and how those patterns show up in your interactions. We’ll start exploring what kind of ongoing work will best support connection and emotional safety.
Ongoing Therapy — £180 per 60-minute session
We shape the journey together. Sessions are flexible , weekly or fortnightly. Through gentle attention to protective parts, relational patterns, and how connection feels in your body, we help your relationship move from old stuck patterns into curiosity, understanding, and closeness.
Half-Day Intensive — 3 hours - £600
An immersive, focused session where we pause the world and give your relationship space to breathe.
Notice and unpack repeating patterns and protective parts
Explore how stress and relational triggers affect connection
Practice new ways of relating in real time
Reconnect and restore closeness through safe, attuned interaction
Follow-up reflection and practical strategies to continue at home
Full-Day Intensive — 6 hours — £1,200
A deep, transformative day dedicated entirely to your relationship.
Explore patterns that keep you stuck and learn how to shift them
Work with parts in the moment to notice old habits and open new possibilities
Rebuild connection, curiosity, and the sense of being seen by each other
Co-create practical steps and strategies to carry the shift beyond the session
Comprehensive follow-up including reflection and practical tools
Even a single conversation, session, or immersive day can be a small but profound shift. A chance for curiosity, attunement, and connection to begin guiding your relationship.